Do you want to learn more about family law to better understand your options for a custody or divorce in New Mexico? Read our blog posts below – written by our experts who understand New Mexico family law.
For further information about divorce and custody cases in New Mexico, we invite you to check out our “Divorce and Custody: A Guide for Representing Yourself in Court“, as well as the divorce articles in the legal resources section.
What happens to your home after divorce? (11/6/2017) - If you’re considering divorce, the first question for most couples is: “What should we do with the house?” The family home is usually the biggest asset to divide. Plus, it’s more than just property. You may have ties to the neighborhood, your kids are happy in their school, and you’ve invested time, energy and love … Continue reading "What happens to your home after divorce?"
Can’t move on? This is why. (10/23/2017) - Divorce is hard. No healthy person enters into a marriage for the sole purpose of getting a divorce. Marriage is designed to be a long term loving commitment between two people. But each person brings baggage into the marriage which can cause one or both spouses to act out inappropriately. Prolonged, unrepentant damage often leads … Continue reading "Can’t move on? This is why."
Set aside 10 minutes a day, you deserve it. (10/16/2017) - Set aside 10 minutes a day, you deserve it. During and after a divorce it is common to have the feeling of grieving, similar to that of the loss of someone. Many people feel the need to stay busy to keep their minds off of this stressful time. To be the best you can be … Continue reading "Set aside 10 minutes a day, you deserve it."
Don’t Make these mistakes when “trying” to move on (10/11/2017) - Bottom line is, breakups suck. It’s devastating to think about all those years you’ve invested in a relationship with someone who ultimately was not worthy of your love. Sadly, the pain doesn’t exactly end on the day you officially call it quits. For a lot of us, post-split behavior can extend that suffering. Take a … Continue reading "Don’t Make these mistakes when “trying” to move on"
Keep your relationship with your children live and well (10/4/2017) - 10 DATE IDEAS TO DO WITH YOUR KIDS 1. GO FOR A WALK It’s amazing the fun conversations that you can have when there’s fresh air & movement involved. It’s the perfect opportunity to learn something new about your kiddo! 2. LATE NIGHT ICE CREAM RUN Hang out with mom or dad plus stay up … Continue reading "Keep your relationship with your children live and well"
Will your finances survive divorce? Check out our Financial Checklist. (9/28/2017) - Financial Preparation for Divorce Here is a basic list of the things to do to secure your personal finance picture when you’re divorcing. Some of these things can be done right away, while others have to wait until the divorce is final. Do what you can now rather than trying to do it all once … Continue reading "Will your finances survive divorce? Check out our Financial Checklist."
Rediscovering yourself AFTER divorce (9/27/2017) - If you were married for a long time, you may have given up a lot of the things you enjoyed as a single person because they didn’t fit with your “couplehood.” Maybe you loved to go out, but your spouse was a homebody. Maybe you always loved going to the theater but your husband hated … Continue reading "Rediscovering yourself AFTER divorce"- How to Make Co-Parenting Work (8/25/2017) - If you are a parent and you are facing divorce, one of the first things you probably thought about was, “What is going to happen with the kids?” You have visions of having to spend weekends and holidays without them. You worry about what will happen to the kids when they are not with you. … Continue reading "How to Make Co-Parenting Work"
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Who gets what in a divorce? (5/1/2017) - Although New Mexico is a community property state, that doesn’t mean everything is split exactly in half in a divorce. Community property is basically anything that isn’t considered a separate property that was acquired by either or both spouses during a marriage. Property acquired as tenants in common or as joint tenants will be presumed … Continue reading "Who gets what in a divorce?"
The “seven year itch” in divorce (4/12/2017) - The seven-year itch is a psychological term that suggests that happiness in a relationship declines after around year seven of a marriage. The seven-year itch can be analyzed quantitatively. Divorce rates show a trend in couples that, on average, divorce around seven years. Statistics show that there is a low risk of separation during the … Continue reading "The “seven year itch” in divorce"
Don’t Guess Your Way Into Something You WILL Regret (4/11/2017) - In New Mexico, child support is the financial contribution from the non-custodial parent to the custodial parent towards the expenses of raising the child. Alimony/Spousal Support is money paid to help ease the financial difficulties a spouse may experience after divorce. Use our app to calculate Child Support and/or Alimony. Click-here for iTunes Click-here for … Continue reading "Don’t Guess Your Way Into Something You WILL Regret"
Social Media Separation (4/10/2017) - Did you know that a third of all divorce filings contain the word “Facebook”? That’s according to a recently-released report by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers. But before you go telling all your friends that “a third of all marriages end because of Facebook,” recognize what the report really says. The truth is that … Continue reading "Social Media Separation"
Positive Self-Talk (2/21/2017) - The things you say to yourself affect your perceptions and feelings. If you say things that make it seem as if everything is bad and nothing will ever get better, it can actually make it harder for you to function and find solutions. Your thoughts can defeat and paralyze you. For this reason, try to … Continue reading "Positive Self-Talk"
Discipline While Coparenting (2/15/2017) - Discipline When Coparenting Disciplining your child in two different homes can be one of the more contentious areas of a coparenting relationship. Coparents who see discipline differently often want to parent differently, and this can cause mixed messages for children in a variety of areas. From a conscious coparenting perspective, you ultimately want your child to know … Continue reading "Discipline While Coparenting"
Response Flexibility (1/25/2017) - Response Flexibility Response Flexibility in parenting terms is the parent’s ability to decide how to manage one’s feeling and thoughts when handling one’s child. Researcher and neuroscientist Dr. Allan Schore wrote, ” A person who most people would agree is delightful to be around has an optimal arousal… being full of life and warmth.” Optimal … Continue reading "Response Flexibility"
Maintaining a Secure Connection with Your Child (1/20/2017) - Maintaining a Secure Connection with Your Child A secure connection with both parents is really important to your child’s development. The amount and quality of time your child has with both of you is vital. Part of being co-parents is accepting that you will not always have access to your children when you want because … Continue reading "Maintaining a Secure Connection with Your Child"
Buying a Cell Phone for Your Child (1/16/2017) - Buying a cell phone for your child Many Parents decide to buy a phone for their child so he has access to either parent. As conscious co-parents, please consider where you stand on phone use, screen time, and what is age appropriate for your child. There is so much research on how too much screen … Continue reading "Buying a Cell Phone for Your Child"
New Mexico Child Support Calculator (1/11/2017) - Child Support Calculator In New Mexico, child support is the financial contribution from the non-custodial parent to the custodial parent towards the expenses of raising the child. Generally child support expenses include the basic necessities such as food, clothing, shelter and medical care. You may use this calculator to determine the anticipated child support for … Continue reading "New Mexico Child Support Calculator"
Children’s Expressions Through Art (12/21/2016) - Children’s Expression Through Art Try looking at a piece of artwork intellectually, without feeling anything, without wondering What is the artist trying to say? It’s almost impossible, because the need to communicate drives creation, and an equally strong quest to understand what we experience forces us to respond, to try to make sense. If a … Continue reading "Children’s Expressions Through Art"
Take a Break (12/20/2016) - Take a Break Single parents may have less time, more pressure, and less support than others. Be creative. Listen to music as a stress buster. Classical music is especially soothing, and some studies suggest it may promote brain development in children. If you work outside the home, try to set aside a ten minute down … Continue reading "Take a Break"
Seperation Hurts, Divorce Doesn’t Have to (12/19/2016) - We are second to none in the power of our web platform and support system. We are sorry you are going through the divorce process. Divorce can be a very stressful event and DivorceNM.com is here to help. We believe “Separation hurts, divorce doesn’t have to.” DivorceNM.com has created a web platform which is Simple, … Continue reading "Seperation Hurts, Divorce Doesn’t Have to"
Getting the Results You Want (12/15/2016) - What can you do to make sure your divorce results in a settlement you want? Here are three secrets to mediation success: 1. Ask yourself that all-important question: What do I really want? If you say you want the house, is it really the house? Or is it staying in the same community, owning rather … Continue reading "Getting the Results You Want"
How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Divorce (12/14/2016) - It’s all about timing. Ideally, you’ll want to tell your spouse you’re considering divorce as soon as you realize you want to end your marriage. Saying it when you’re calm and have time to talk about it together, such as at the beginning of the weekend, is a good idea. You already know when your … Continue reading "How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Divorce"
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