Breaking the News to Your Children

Telling your kids that you’re getting a divorce is heart-wrenching and terrifying. Beyond the initial announcement, it can be confusing to figure out how to discuss divorce-related topics on a daily basis without overwhelming or upsetting your child. You will need to examine their responses to the issues and then explore what you should be focusing your efforts on to make the process as painless as possible for your child.

Most, if not all, children remember the first time they heard that their parents were getting a divorce. Nothing can stop this moment from being shocking and painful. However, if you plan ahead, you can make this initial talk less traumatic for your children. Your goals are to transmit information in a calm and loving way, to answer questions that your children may have, and to reassure your children that you and your co-parent love them deeply.

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