Do you want to learn more about family law to better understand your options for a custody or divorce in New Mexico? Read our blog posts below – written by our experts who understand New Mexico family law.
For further information about divorce and custody cases in New Mexico, we invite you to check out our “Divorce and Custody: A Guide for Representing Yourself in Court“, as well as the divorce articles in the legal resources section.
- Putting your children first regardless of divorce (11/5/2018) - Holidays can be stressful for everyone, but for children of divorced or separated parents, the holidays can be especially challenging. Despite this reality, divorced parents (as well as parents that are separated and considering divorce) can ease the tension, maintain their sanity and grace and create happy holiday memories for their children and themselves for … Continue reading "Putting your children first regardless of divorce"
- 7 keys for a better parent-child relationship (10/8/2018) - So, what can a dad do to share a meaningful time with his kids? (Hint: it doesn’t have to be anything extraordinary!) Here are 7 keys to helping you develop a better parent-child relationship: 1. Focus on everyday tasks Getting dressed, washing, playing … Some dads fall into the trap of thinking that they have … Continue reading "7 keys for a better parent-child relationship"
- Children and Separation Anxiety (9/17/2018) - It’s natural for your young child to feel anxious when you say goodbye. Although it can be difficult, separation anxiety is a normal stage of development. With understanding and these coping strategies, separation anxiety can be relieved—and should fade as your child gets older. However, if anxieties intensify or are persistent enough to get in … Continue reading "Children and Separation Anxiety"
- The Business of Co-Parenting (8/28/2018) - The Business of Co-Parenting The most effective way to manage your divided family and keep everyone and everything running smoothly is to manage it as if you were managing a business. Every well-established business has a Chief Executive Officer (CEO). In businesses where the CEO is acting alone, the CEO is undeniably the highest ranking … Continue reading "The Business of Co-Parenting"
- Time Sharing Made Simple (8/20/2018) - Co-parenting is rough. Putting your own wants and needs side-by-side with the child’s and yes, the other parent’s too, helps create a mutual willingness to do the right thing. As despair and rage subsides, adult relationships reconstitute from lovers to more business-like, problem-solving platonic parents. It’s possible this way to be devoted and reliable parents, … Continue reading "Time Sharing Made Simple"
- 5 Co-Parenting Tips that work even with a Toxic X (8/16/2018) - Ah…love. We fall in love and have kids, and the next thing you know we’re arguing over everything. Why? Oftentimes it’s because we fall in love with people very different from us. People who fill a gap in our lives. We look for people who are interesting, exciting, and romantic. Then the kids arrive, and … Continue reading "5 Co-Parenting Tips that work even with a Toxic X"
- 5 Mistakes Divorced Parents Make (8/7/2018) - WebMD spoke with family and divorce expert M. Gary Neuman, who gives exes pointers on how to split up without emotionally destroying their kids. Breaking up is hard to do, and it may be especially hard for kids. Kids of divorce can feel they’ve been hit the hardest by the end of their parents’ relationship. … Continue reading "5 Mistakes Divorced Parents Make"
- It’s hot, your divorced, what’s next? 6 questions to ask yourself before having sex after divorce. (7/30/2018) - Let’s cut to the chase: all of us divorced adults have had sex and most of us still want sex. The problem is that we may not want the ‘strings’ of a full-on relationship; we just aren’t ready. And, as much as masturbation gives our bodies something to ‘snack on,’ we know what we really want … Continue reading "It’s hot, your divorced, what’s next? 6 questions to ask yourself before having sex after divorce."
- Co-Parenting Do’s and Don’ts (7/23/2018) - Co-parenting, sometimes called joint parenting or shared parenting, is the experience of raising children as a single parent when separation or divorce occurs. Often a difficult process, co-parenting is greatly influenced by the reciprocal interactions of each parent. So, if you’re parenting in a healthy way but your Ex isn’t, your children will be at risk for developmental … Continue reading "Co-Parenting Do’s and Don’ts"
- Helping Kids to Cope with Divorce (7/16/2018) - Many parents find telling their children about their impending divorce difficult, and so they avoid or delay telling them. But be sure to talk with your children from the start of the process to reduce their misunderstanding and uncertainties. In spite of a divorce, the focus should always be to continue to create a sense … Continue reading "Helping Kids to Cope with Divorce"
- No More Wedding Season Downers (7/9/2018) - Tossing invites in the trash isn’t your ONLY option. The trees are growing leaves. The flowers are blooming. You can’t escape it no matter how much you want to right now… It’s wedding season and the invitations have started arriving. Your friends deserve happiness and you wish them well, but why the crap do they need to send you an … Continue reading "No More Wedding Season Downers"
- Golden C Rules for Co-parenting (6/22/2018) - In a divorce case Co-Parenting is one of the custody options. In this the children will be able to take the benefits of having both the parents around themselves even after their separation on a regular basis. Although co-parenting is a difficult task to do after separation but it is highly recommended since this is … Continue reading "Golden C Rules for Co-parenting"
- 5 Tips a CDLP Can Provide Your Divorce Team (6/11/2018) - Include some of these 5 tips into your divorce settlements, and set yourself apart from the majority of family law attorneys who do not know these principles of mortgage qualifying! As a Certified Divorce Lending Professional (CDLP), it is my obligation to apply these principles in the context of a specific case where a client … Continue reading "5 Tips a CDLP Can Provide Your Divorce Team"
- Divorce and Your Mortgage: Trivia! (5/9/2018) - Here are some great & common factoids when you own own real estate and need new mortgage financing as part of the divorce settlement. Question: The ability to use the receipt of alimony /maintenance as qualified income for obtaining mortgage financing requires the ability to show the income is consistent and stable. In order to … Continue reading "Divorce and Your Mortgage: Trivia!"
- Emotional Investing: Part 3 “Why should I Invest?” (5/1/2018) - Over the last three weeks I asked you to track the times and events when you made emotional investments in your child. You probably saw times where an idea you had didn’t pan out, and had to adjust and make changes. Or you thought you had a great idea and it ended up stressing your … Continue reading "Emotional Investing: Part 3 “Why should I Invest?”"
- How Marital Liens, Lis Pendens Affect You & Your Mortgage During Divorce (4/17/2018) - Lis Pendens are notices that warn the public of lawsuits that affect real estate. They are often used in divorce cases to protect one spouse when the other tries to transfer real estate without the other spouse’s knowledge. Lis Pendens help to protect a spouse’s interest in the property until a final settlement is reached … Continue reading "How Marital Liens, Lis Pendens Affect You & Your Mortgage During Divorce"
- Emotional Investments: Part 2 How to Invest (4/12/2018) - Last time, we identified ways to get involved in our children’s lives by engaging in their interests. Kids, like adults, experience and feel love in a variety of ways. They are popularly referred to as “Love Laguages”, these are basic ways an individual recognizes affection. Recognizing love and the positive chemical responses it triggers in … Continue reading "Emotional Investments: Part 2 How to Invest"
- Property Settlement Notes in Divorce (3/21/2018) - In this week’s blog we’ll be looking at Property Settlement Note’s and their impact in a divorce. So, what exactly is a Property Settlement Note? It is a deferred payment in property settlement used to equalize property. It is important to realize that a Property Settlement Note: Used to equalize property Not taxable to recipient … Continue reading "Property Settlement Notes in Divorce"
- Emotional Investments: Part 1, “What is Investing?” (3/1/2018) - Human beings are designed to exist in family units. We are programed to seek love, acceptance and support in the bonds of mentorship, friendship, romantic relationships and family ties. As far back as archeologists can trace, human beings have existed in groups, or family units. The beauty of human existence is that our environment within … Continue reading "Emotional Investments: Part 1, “What is Investing?”"
- How will the 2018 Tax Cut and Jobs Act Affect Your Divorce? (2/13/2018) - After consulting a divorcing couple following passage of the 2018 Tax Reform Bill, we realized that the 2018 Reform Tax Bill will have major implications on their financial situation. “Going forward alimony/Maintenance is no longer tax deductible.” This specific change may even have a greater effect on divorcing spouses where real estate and mortgage financing … Continue reading "How will the 2018 Tax Cut and Jobs Act Affect Your Divorce?"
- Talking with kids: Answering “Why?” (2/6/2018) - One of the hardest parts of separation and divorce answering “Why?” to your self and to children. Throughout this process you’ll hear it over and over from kids of all ages because it’s simply outside their understanding. It’s not a natural process for children like getting taller or starting school, or loosing teeth is. It’s … Continue reading "Talking with kids: Answering “Why?”"
- Mortgage and Divorce (1/25/2018) - One-way of achieving success in a divorce situation, is to formulate an effective strategy to tackle the case before you and this is where strategic planning comes in. Strategic Planning – Divorce A lack of strategic planning in divorce can very quickly and easily lead to a drainage of emotional and financial resources which will … Continue reading "Mortgage and Divorce"
- Ringing in the New Year Alone? Great! (12/26/2017) - Is your new year truly doomed if you’re not in love and don’t have a special someone to ring in January one? Hardly. Just like plenty complain about the over-commercialization of Christmas or Valentine’s Day (hello, like you’re only somebody if someone sends you a dozen roses and a box of chocolates on the big “V-day”? … Continue reading "Ringing in the New Year Alone? Great!"
- How to cope with divorce during the holidays (12/15/2017) - Dealing with a divorce is one thing, but during the holidays it can really make people feel overwhelmed and overrun with anxiety, stress, and fear. The season may serve festivities, fun and rejoicing but this is contrasted by depression, fear and a sense of loss for those who are divorced. Many people deal with holiday … Continue reading "How to cope with divorce during the holidays"
- How to Discuss Separation With Children (12/12/2017) - I was recently posed the question “My wife and I have decided to separate, how do I tell our daughter?” The real answer is there is no perfect answer; but there are some guidelines you can follow to make the discussion positive and productive, even if it isn’t easy. These same principles can be applied … Continue reading "How to Discuss Separation With Children"
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